Don’t Let Fear of Failure Stop You

Failure. A word we all know, and at some point, have experienced. We learn what failure means when we are kids, and ever since then, it haunts us for the rest of our lives.

We are taught that failure is something terrible. Something we should be scared of and run away from.

When we see someone fail, we feel bad for them, and we can also feel discouraged. We tend to focus on the failure that someone has rather than what they achieve, and this is because we are petrified by it. 

Here is the thing; if you aren’t doing something you want because you fear that you might fail, you are already failing. You are failing yourself. And in all honesty, that kind of failure is the worst. 

A wrong concept we tend to have is that failure is something defined by society. If society sees you fail, then it counts, and that is what you want to avoid because it is bad, right?

The truth is that failure isn’t always bad; it doesn’t define you, and it is not defined by society.

Use failure to grow

No one likes to fail, and that’s the truth. I even get annoyed when I don’t achieve something, and my family tells me that it is okay, that a new opportunity will come.

We like to receive the same that we put into things, and that is perfectly understandable. However, if we fail while trying, we will at least learn something. 

The best way we learn is through experiences. Experiences make us grow and evolve when we use them for feedback. 

Almost every successful person has become successful by failing and not giving up. And that is the key here. 

Failure can become your fuel and motivation to keep on trying and growing, or it can freeze you and make you insecure and unmotivated. 

 If you start looking at your failures as experiences that help you grow, your life will change for the better. I suggest you take a look at these people’s biographies for some inspiration. 

1.) Thomas Edison

2.) J.K. Rowling

3.) Walt Disney

4.) Vera Wang

5.) Steven Spielberg

Be confident, believe in yourself

Now, why am I talking about being confident if I was talking about failure? Simple. When you believe in yourself, what others say about you won’t matter that much.

Becoming confident is not easy, and it is a constant struggle. 

I have met many talented people with outstanding ideas and goals, but they are too afraid of failing, so they don’t do anything about it.

The thing is that when you are not doing what you want, you are already failing yourself. You are not exploring all your potential and you are not giving yourself the credit you deserve.

I have learned that no matter what you do, there will always be people that will like it and people that won’t. So if you measure your success or failure based on others, then you might never feel satisfied. 

Do what you want to do. Work for your goals. People will always have a say, but you choose how it will affect you. 

Here I share a link to a great article from Succes that might help you become more confident. https://www.success.com/7-mental-hacks-to-be-more-confident-in-yourself/

Remember, don’t let the fear of failure stop you from doing what you love and pursue your destiny. 

Your failures do not define you

We live in a society that sometimes focuses too much on the things that go wrong rather than the things that go right.

This makes us feel more aware of failing publicly as we are predisposed to the idea that if we fail publicly, people won’t forget about it.  

But when we realize that, at some point, we all fail; and that failing is part of life, we feel better.

 If you don’t think you have failed, you are lying. Because by staying in your comfort zone instead of risking things out and trying, you are failing. 

Your failures don’t define you because they don’t last forever. They help you grow, and they aren’t always bad. If by any means, failing should motivate you to keep on working for what you want.

I don’t know about you, but when I hear stories from people like Thomas Edison, who failed so many times but at the end achieved something great, I feel so inspired. 

Their failures aren’t erased, but they are not remembered in a bad or shameful way. On the contrary, those failuresare what made succes possible; and so they are praised.

Failing is from humans, and it is perfectly fine. What matters is how you respond to those failures. You are not your failures, but how you react to them will be a big part of who you are. 

Conclusion

Ever since I have been looking at life and failure from that perspective, my life has changed dramatically. 

I was always afraid of doing something because I could mess up. And because of that, I wasn’t doing what I loved. I wasn’t working on my dreams and goals. I was failing myself.

 But I don’t let that stop me anymore. I do the things I want to do without worrying too much about whether it would work or not. In the worst-case scenario, it won’t; and before trying, I didn’t have anything. 

Life is too short to spend it over doubts, having fear, and waiting. 

You ought to give your goals and dreams a try. If you fail, you keep on trying. It will take you at least one step ahead. 

“Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time, we fall.” Confucius